In a polyamorous relationship (just as in Polytheism), each person brings something different to the table. Unique personalities, skills, talents. We each have our own purviews and influences, just like deities in a pantheon.
Polyamory is - no, must be - honest, and based on ideas of egalitarianism (all parties being equal) and comparison (the ability to find joy in the joy of another). What it isn’t is the kinky swinger lifestyle that most imagine when confronted with the idea.
Imagine this: every friend you’ve ever made in your life, choose one. That is the only one you can ever love or be truly friends with. Every pet you’ve ever had? Choose one. Only it can have your love. LOVE ISN’T PIE. Love for someone else doesn’t mean less love for another.
A growing number of modern pagans are finding joy in the poly community. To name a few recognizable names (borrowing from another article) Oberon and Morning Glory Zell, Isaac Bonewits, Raven Kaldera, Joi Wolfwomyn, and Elizabeth Barrette amongst countless others. Morning Glory Zell, one of the founders of the Church of the All Worlds, first coined the term Polyamory. The very word itself was born out of paganism and the idea of sacred sexuality.
What does this mean for the community? For me? That we need to recognize that the now fading and lonely nuclear family is becoming a relic. That monogamy is a preprogrammed idea born from patriarchal Judeo Christian ideals. And that the polyamorous community is simply finding their way back to a more animalistic, fertility and nature focused, tribal way of living.
We must realize that it takes a village to raise children, and to care for one another.
Polyamory isnt for everyone.
And certainly, to each their own. But consider that there might be something more; that for those rare people who can reach to each other through a world of opposing views, of unkindnesses and hurt, of difficulty and opposition to find one another, and find love not once but multiple times... it is a gift from the very Gods.
(This article’s content was inspired by a variety of articles and books, all of which I’m far too lazy to link right this second. But hey! Read “The Polyamory Handbook” and “Pagan Polyamory: Becoming a Tribe of Hearts” for more information on both polyamory and sacred sexuality!)